I suppose no matter where you live sooner or later you are going to come across someone who is going to approach you and ask for some sort of assistance and mainly in the form of money. I must say of the last two people who have done this the one last night really managed to piss me off royally.
When I arrived home last night the spousal had left the front gate open for me so I was able to drive straight into the yard. He usually comes out when he hears the car drive in to close the gate behind us but last night he didn't hear. On getting out of the car I stopped mid stride as right at the gate was this man who upon seeing my face immediately said "don't be afraid I only want some help" So okay I'm up to helping my fellow man. I went to the gate to close it and listen to what he had to say. He said his hand was broken (showed me his somewhat swollen looking arm) and he was unable to work and wanted to know if I could help him, to which I replied "I don't give money but I could give you food". He seemed disappointed and tried to make me see the error of my ways saying even if I gave him food he had no gas at home to cook it with. So I once again said and even gave him the little story of my last run in with someone looking to appeal to my better nature and ask for money. He listened and said okay he was just going up the road and would return.
Look seriously I do not give anyone money, there are just too many people on drugs and just on "some scene" out there, if you need help take food, I can spare some tins of stuff if I have it but I am not supporting you in any drug habit you may have.
Anyway I went inside and related the story to the spousal who is even less trusting than I am and after putting some tins together, sausages and tuna and bread (things he did not have to cook) and went back outside, spousal went with me cause he wanted to see this character but he was nowhere to be found. We went back inside and a few minutes later he reappeared and called at the gate. I took out the package to him told him what it was, he took it and then said "so no charity then?" I was flabbergasted! All sort of bad words came to mind because what de arse really! I am giving this man food, food that he could eat immediately no cooking required and no only is he taking it and not saying thanks but wanting money on top of it! I wanted to a. take back my damn food and b. bash is ugly ass head in. Instead I said "That is charity, that is putting something in your stomach" and walked off. I heard him mumbling something as I was going back inside but I was seething. It was truly like a slap in the face. My faith in human nature is not very high in the first place and I am so angry that he has made it just that much harder for the next person who approaches me and who may genuinely be thankful for anything they get because he was an ass.
My own fault really, learnt a few things from that especially about the type of person I will give "charity" to.
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Wow. See, most people I've been inclined to help have taken food from me no questions asked, and that is just great IMO. But this is shifty, man, and just plain shitty. He certainly wasn't as desperate as he said he was. Personally, if he'd responded the way he did and it had been me, I'd have told him to fuck off and taken the food back with me.
steups. i almost cuss a vagrant some night when i was walking with the tourists. One gave him money, coinage, and the man bawl "oh this is not enough", kept following us. after a while he start callin out to me, i was like COME ON... NO! all the while, panting and sweating up a humungous hill...lol. think that was the fastest i went up a hill yes. good thing there was a hill. lazyass vagrant stopped after a certain point. no eh bitch, you can walk and talk and give chat? you can fricking work.
I think what you did was reasonable. It was very nice of you to prepare a package of food for the man.
I remember a period of time when I was homeless and on the streets. I couldn't beg - for money or food. I had too much pride even though I waas starving. I forget why now I was so proud.
But you deserve to be thanked properly for what you did.
That was really thoughtful of you to put that together.
I once had a homeless woman toss coins back at me. Her logic?
"das wha yuh driving and all yuh could gimmeh is quarters".
I shoke my head in dismay because it doesn't matter what I drove or how I look. I try to give what I can, no matter how little, to persons in need.
This was a real slap in the face from that man. I hope it will not stop you from helping other homeless people because in these times more will be.
I am very meticulous in who I help and I just hope that when I help it is accepted with a thankful heart.
Sad to say that the people who approach you for help in this country are con artists of the highest order and they make it difficult for people who really need help. I have been scammed for money a few times too many and now my once generous heart has hardened. Like you I don't give money - only food and sadly they rarely want it.
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